Traditions worldwide and dating as far back as the 17th Century have the newly married couple taking centre stage for the first dance. The first dance was originally a custom held by wealthy families hosting balls in which the guest of honour or hosts opened up the dance floor for all. This once upon a time social norm began first dance tradition at weddings and has held strong since. The first dance is an extremely personal moment for the couple, and could ultimately be the ONLY personal moment the couple get all evening as they are generally busy entertaining their guests throughout the day.
The first song is usually a special song and should symbolically hold meaning for the newlyweds. Does it have meaningful lyrics? A beautiful melody? A sentimental mood? Did it play in the background on the first night you met? Or perhaps it is just the easiest song to dance to because one of you have two left feet? Whatever the deciding factor is,, understand there are no rules to follow or people to please. This moment is the couple’s moment, and no matter what song is chosen, it will be perfect for them, and them alone, as a secret only they share in the moment. Being that ballroom type dancing is not a common skill in our era, many couples opt to take lessons and learn a choreographed dance. Teaching and rehearsing the "first dance" is now a service offered by many dance instructors and studios.
But...what if you’re a rule breaker and you’ve decided nothing in your wedding will be customary or traditional? Many couples are now breaking away from the “norm” and starting new trends that are catching on everywhere, especially with the help of social media and YouTube. By searching “first dance” you will see just what we mean! My favourite? Couples start of the evening with the “traditional” slow, romantic song, creating the visual that they are following custom, and all of a sudden, the music changes, and the couple break out into a sudden choreographed dance routine! Using songs that clash is even better. Depending on the time of the year, or theme of the wedding, couples have busted out into their own versions or copied and simplified choreographies from Thriller, Grease Lightening, Hit Me Baby One More Time, Bye Bye Bye, Uptown Funk, Rocky Horror Show, and Footloose.
Couples have even gone so far as to make it a “flash mob” type event where members of the bridal party or family join the dance, making the already memorable event, even MORE memorable. Just when you thought your commitment to being in the bridal party only consisted of expensive clothing and lots of pictures, your job description became updated! Or perhaps… you have a partner who simply does not dance - Slow, fast, single or in groups. What then? Don’t panic, there is no need to cancel the “first dance”. Many newlyweds with uncooperative partners have chosen to do a “surprise” dance with their bridesmaids or groomsmen which is always a sight to see and a memory to keep.
If you do find yourself stuck for first dance ideas, a great place to start is with the DJ or band that you have booked. They are professionals and will usually have years of experience performing at weddings. They personally will know, or may have even created the soundtrack to hundreds of first dances already. If you are having difficulty deciding on just one song, consider making it a mix of a couple of songs. Remember, there is no right way, there is only your way!
Here are a few of the most popular first dance songs:
- All of Me – John Legend
- Marry You – Bruno Mars
- Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
- Stay with Me – Sam Smith
- A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
- Grow Old With Me – Tom Odell
- Baby I'm Yours – Arctic Monkeys
- Only Love – Ben Howard
- I Won't Give Up – Jason Mraz
- How Long Will I Love You – Ellie Goulding
- At Last - Etta James
- Have I Told You Lately? - Van Morrison
- Stand By Me - Ben E. King
- Every Breath You Take - Sting
- Blue Moon - Elvis Presley
- Eternal Flame - Bangles
- God Only Knows - Beach Boys
- You Do Something To Me - Paul Weller
- Everything I Do (I Do It For You) - Bryan Adam
- More Than Words - Extreme
- Fade Into You - Mazzy Star
- Black - Pearl Jam
- Lovesong - The Cure
- Hysteric - The Yeah, Yeah, Yeah’s
- Falling Slowly - Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova
- Hotel Yorba - White Stripes
- Home - Edward Sharpe And The Magnetic Zeros
- Do You Realize - The Flaming Lips
- Everlong - Foo Fighters
- There Is A Light That Never Goes Out - The Smiths
Ceilidh or Folk Band
- Feels Like Home -Chantal Kreviazuk
- Have I Told You Lately -Van Morrison
- Wish I Had Someone To Love Me -Dubliners
- Falling Slowly – Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova
- My Love Is Like A Red Red Rose -Robbie Burns
*folkloric list comprised by Written by Ruthe Graham from Celtica
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